Focus on the Productive Things

You often hear about the "guilt" that people feel in their professional lives – that nagging sensation that they're not doing enough, not living up to their potential, or falling short of the high standards they've set for themselves. Sure, there's also the guilt that team members may feel, the belief that they're letting down their colleagues, that they're not good enough.

This professional guilt is useful in one way – it serves as a reflection that you're dedicated and invested in your work. You care about what you do and the people you do it with. But aside from acknowledging that you're engaged, this guilt doesn't enhance your performance.

Ever hear of the term "imposter syndrome"? It's that feeling that you're a fraud in your own life. It's almost self-centered in its doubt, convincing you that everyone's eyes are fixed on your every misstep. Professional guilt is just like that. It doesn't make you any more skilled or effective; it only serves to distract and dishearten.

There's a lesson from ancient wisdom that can be applied here. The Stoics, such as Seneca, talked about becoming a better friend to oneself. In your professional life, this means treating yourself with the same respect, compassion, and encouragement you would extend to a valued colleague. A good colleague holds you accountable but does so with empathy and motivation. They believe in you; they back you up.

A person who constantly makes you feel guilty, who tears you down, who tells you that you'll never succeed? That's not a colleague. That's not someone you'd want on your team. So why entertain these thoughts in your own mind? Why be that person to yourself?

Accountability is vital, but it must be balanced with trust. Trust in your abilities, your judgment, and your intentions. Trust in your colleagues to be there for you, just as you are there for them. And most importantly, trust in the process. Mistakes will happen, deadlines may be missed, but guilt won't correct them. Only thoughtful action, collaboration, and self-assurance will.

Let go of the professional guilt. Embrace accountability and trust. Apply the same kindness and encouragement to yourself that you would to a dear friend. Keep your eyes on the goal, support those around you, and remember, you are doing better than you think.

Your career doesn't need guilt. It needs dedication, empathy, and a steadfast belief that you are enough.